Summary

In this engaging conversation, Nate Leslie and Nick Shelton explore the complexities of introversion and social anxiety. Nick shares his journey from struggling with social interactions to becoming a TEDx speaker (A Creative Solution to Social Anxiety) and author of ”An Introvert’s Guide to World Domination”. They discuss practical strategies for introverts to navigate social situations, the importance of shifting focus from oneself to the audience, and the power of observation. The conversation emphasizes the value of relationships and how understanding different personality types can enhance communication and connection.

Find Nick at connectedintrovert.com or LinkedIn

Keywords

introversion, social anxiety, public speaking, personal development, networking, TEDx talk, introvert strategies, confidence, relationships, self-improvement

Takeaways

• Nick Shelton's journey from social anxiety to public speaking is inspiring.
• The concept of a 'uniform' can help manage social anxiety.
• Introverts recharge by spending time alone after social interactions.
• Setting low expectations for social events can reduce pressure.
• Preparation and knowing the next step are crucial for introverts.
• Courage is doing something despite feeling scared.
• Shifting focus from self to audience enhances public speaking.
• Observation is a superpower of introverts in social settings.
• Creating space for introverts in conversations is essential.
• The quality of our life is determined by the quality of our relationships.

Sound bites

”Just show up. Just be in the room.”

”It's not about me, it's about them.”

Nick's Bio

Nick Shelton is a bestselling author, TEDx speaker, international speaker, and former petroleum chemist who has reinvented himself more than once. After serving in the U.S. Air Force and building a decades-long career in the oil and gas industry, Nick retired early at 49, only to discover that freedom without purpose can feel like a slow collapse.

That crisis led him to rebuild his identity from the ground up, creating a six-phase framework that gave him back clarity, confidence, and direction. Today, he’s the creator of The Reset Button, a reinvention protocol for those navigating, major career shifts, or life transitions who find themselves asking: What’s next?

Nick is also the author of the best selling book An Introvert’s Guide to World Domination, where he helped thousands of quiet professionals thrive in a noisy world. His work has been featured on stages, in university classrooms, and in global podcasts.

Here are the links:

www.connectedintrovert.com

www.resettheman.com

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/nicholasleonshelton/

Book: https://geni.us/anintrovertsguide

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Introversion and Social Anxiety

03:07 Creative Solutions for Social Anxiety

05:50 Understanding Introversion and Energy Dynamics

08:56 Practical Tips for Introverts in Social Settings

11:46 The Journey of Writing and Speaking

14:56 Courage and Confidence in Public Speaking

17:49 Shifting Focus from Self to Audience

20:50 The Fluidity of Introversion and Extroversion

23:45 The Introvert's Superpower: Observation

26:38 Creating Space for Introverts in Conversations